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The truth about teen suicide
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Sunday morning is everyday forall I care...
And I’m not scared
Light my candles ina daze...
'Cause I've found god - yeah,yeah,yeah
-Nirvana
HAVE you ever felt that you’ve had enough of life? That you were absolutely fed up with it? Or,did you ever
believe that you had no reason for living, that you need to eradicate yourself from the face of the Earth in any way possible? If you have, you're in more danger than you think. Findings from recent research have shown that most teen suicides in our country are the result of many factors - personal problems, family burdens and pressure, unbearable emotional state and a traumatic event which together might have lead to an intolerable situation in the young person's life. Suicide is almost always a last resort an alternative to a problem a teen can't solve by himself/herself.
IheCauses
Adolescence is a period of rapid physical and emotional growth - a timeof stress and confusion for many adolescents, which is normal. Most teens cross this stage without any serious conflict 8ut for some, their ability to deal with this may be stretched to the absolute limit and even beyond that.
Family support is particularly important in the normal development of young people. When this support is not available or in some instances when the family Is itself “toxic" (e.g. abusive.
violent and dysfunctional) to the young person, depression and’anger may ensue with dire consequences. Over-protective families can be just asstressful.
Many youths have difficulties coping with peer pressure. Being different, not athletic or studious can be most unbearable at this stage because other children tend to bully and tease. Children rarely talk about such things with their parents and friends and when this bullying reaches its peak the emotional burden may become unbearable. They may seek relief from drugs and alcohol and the wrong kind of friends. Because they think they can "escape" from their distresses temporarily, they tend to continue. Eventually they may become dependent on the drugs to the point where he/she has to keep taking them constantly. Unfortunately alcohol and many drugs may actually make them more depressed and it may become impossible for them to let go becauseof withdrawal syndrome.
Teenagers with a history of conduct disorder have a much higher risk of suicide because they tend to act out their feelings in a destructive manner. This is particularly true if they are iso-lated,angry and aggressive. Many of these young people are in constant crisis. For example, they may be homeless and they have frequent conflicts with the law. They may be lonely, social outcasts and they seek support from others with similar backgrou, id. Many are reluctant to admit to themselves or to others of their true feelings or toaskforhelp.
In our country, a majority of youth suicides occur to victims of sexual assault. They blame themselves for what has happened to them, thinking that they are ’unclean’, brought shame to their families and are unfit to be a part of soci-ety.They may commit suicide to save the "honor”oftheirfamily.
There are also cases where youths have relationship conflicts-where they 'cannot get the ones they love', or 'their beloved won't or can't marry them'. This makes them feel that without their loved one, they won't be able to survive, and it'll be easier to cope with the pain if they didn’t live at all.
The Symptoms
Chronicdepression Isa serious disease and should be treated so. Sometimes the person himself may not know that he is suffering from something so serious.
Mood changes are common but persistent lowering of mood may indicate the presence of an underlying major depression. Depressed youths, especially females, have a much higher risk of suicide. The risk is further increased if there is a family history of depression and suicide.
Constantly talking about death or the uselessnessofllfe.
Reluctance to meet other people of sameageortobesociallyactive.
Eating disorders, loss of appetite and having problems sleeping
Giving away prized possessions and loss of interest in hobbies, personal appearances etc
Takingunnecessary risks.
If you are experiencing any of these symptoms or know some one who is talk to someone older like a parent, sibling, aunt or even a health professional.
Prevention
As long as there is an emotionally significant person in our lives to whom we can relate, this will decrease the likelihood of suicide. The person may be a parent, a teacher, a close friend or a
youth worker. The presence of a good supportive netvrork is particularly Important to those youths who have little or no family support. Indeed simply talking about their problems and letting out their feelings may become the best medicine forthe suicidal.
Awarm.caring and understanding family is a good source of support fora teen in distress. Firm guidance, good communication, family stability and an ability to "grow" with the child are important ingredients fora well functioning family.
Teens who are involved in group activities such as EGA and team sports can use these activities to channel their energy and frustration in a socially acceptable manner. They learn to relate to others in a structured and fun environment under the guidance of responsible and caring adults. Their self esteem can be raised by their successes.
Social stigma and prejudice are our enemies. Every human being is taught from childhood that suicidal people are shameful, sinful, weak, selfish, and manipulative-taught that they are contagious, and want to harm others. None of these ideasaretrue.
Whilq thousands of years of social oppression are'an enemy, our allies Include millions of years>of biological programming. We are born •tvith the desire to stay alive. It is the most basic thing about us; we share it with all living beings. At each moment, millions of events take place inside our bodies and inside our minds that are designed to help us stay alive. Many of us endured bleak periods during which inner voices cried out, "Kill yourself. Your life is nothing but pain and misery. You might as well end it all." Yet we did not die.The desire for life is pre-conscious. It keeps us going even when the voices tell us to die.
BySlayer