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Curiosity of your kids about sex!
Answering kids' questions about sex is one of the responsibilities many parents dread most. Otherwise confident parents often feel tongue-tied and awkward when it comes to sex. But the subject should not be avoided. By answering children's questions as they arise, parents can help foster healthy feelings about sex.
When do children start becoming curious about sex?
Children are human beings and therefore sexual beings. It is hard for parents to acknowledge this, just as it is hard for children to think of their parents as sexually active. But even infants have curiosity about their own bodies, which is healthy and normal.
What sort of "sexual" behaviour do young children exhibit?
Toddlers will often touch themselves when they are naked, such as in the bathtub or while being diapered. At this stage of development, they have no modesty. Their parent's reaction will tell them whether their actions are acceptable. Toddlers should not be scolded or made to feel ashamed of being interested in their bodies. It is natural for children to be interested in their own bodies. Some parents may
choose to casually ignore selftouching. Others may want to acknowledge that, while they know it feels good, it is a private matter. Parents can make it clear that they expect the child to keep that activity private.
Parents should only be concerned about masturbation if the child seems preoccupied with it to the exclusion of other activities. Victims of sexual abuse sometimes become preoccupied with self-stimulation.
Is it OK to use nicknames for private parts?
By the time a child is 3 years of age, parents may choose to use the correct anatomical words. They may sound clinical, but there is no reason why the proper label should not be used when the child is capable of saying it. These words - penis, vagina, etc. - should be stated matter-of-factly, with no implied silliness. That way, the child learns to use them in a direct manner, without embarrassment. In fact, this is what most parents do.
What do you tell a very young child who asks where babies come from?
Depending on the child's age, you can say that the baby grows from an egg in the mommy's
womb, pointing to your stomach, and comes out of a special place, called the vagina. There is no need to explain the act of lovemaking because very young children will not understand the concept.
However, you can say that when a man and a woman love each other, they like to be close to one another. Tell them that the man's sperm joins the woman's egg and then the baby begins to grow. Most children under the age of 6 will accept this answer. Age-appropriate books on the subject are also helpful. Answer your child's question in a straight-forward manner, and you will probably find that she/he is satisfied with a little information at a time.
What should you do if you catch your child playing "doctor," i.e., showing private parts to another child?
Children 3 to 6 years of age are most likely to play "doctor." Many parents overreact when they witness or hear of such behaviour. Heavy-handed scolding is NOT the way to deal with the situation. Nor should parents feel this is promiscuous behaviour or will lead to promiscuity. Often, the presence of a parent is enough to
interrupt the play.
You may wish to direct your child's attention to another activity without making a lot of fuss. Later, sit down with your child for a talk. Explain that although you understand his/her interest in his/her friend's body, he/she is getting to be a big girl and people are generally expected to keep their bodies covered in public. This way you have set limits without having made the child feel guilty.
This is also an appropriate age to begin to talk about good and bad touch. Tell your child that his/her body is his/her own and that he/she has the right to privacy. No one should touch him/her if she does not like it or want it. Tell him/her that if anyone ever touches him/her in a way that feels strange or bad, he/she should tell that person to stop it and then tell you about it. Explain that you want to know about anything that makes him/her feel bad or uncomfortable.
When should parents sit children down for that all-important "birds and bees" discussion?
Actually, never! Learning about sex should not occur in one all-or-nothing session. It should be
more of an unfolding process, one in which the child learns, over time, what she needs to know. Questions should be answered as they arise so that the child's natural curiosity is satisfied as he/she matures.
If your child does not ask questions about sex, do not just ignore the subject. At about age 5, you can begin to introduce books that approach sexuality on a developmentally appropriate level. Parents often have trouble finding the right words, but there are a number of excellent books to help.
At what age should nudity in the home be curtailed?
Families set their own standards for nudity, modesty, and privacy. Although every family's values are different, privacy is an important concept for all children to learn. Parents should explain limits regarding privacy the same way that other house rules are explained - matter-of-factly - so that children do not come to associate privacy with guilt or secrecy. Generally, children will learn from the limits you establish forthem.
To what extent can parents depend on the schools to teach sex education?
Parents should begin the sex education process long before it begins in school. The introduction of formal sex education in the classroom varies. Some of the topics addressed in a sex education class may include anatomy, contraception, sexually transmitted diseases, and pregnancy. Parents should be open to continuing the dialogue and answering questions at home. Schools tend to teach mechanics and science more than values. This is an area where parents can and should have something to teach.
At what age should girls be told about menstruation?
Girls (and boys!) should have information by parents especially by mothers about menstrual cycle, as it is an important part of their life. Instructional books are helpful, but mothers should also share their own personal experiences with their daughters, including when their periods first started and what it felt like, and how, like many things, it was not such a big deal after awhile. Source: http://www.kidshealth.org