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OPINION

Courtesy, Cordiality and Cooperation
Of late In an evening, I happened to be In a friendly family gathering. Some young ladies and gentlemen were also present. As usual the issues ranged from Individual/famlly problems to international policies, primely and grimly pointing to deteriorating present affairs vis-a-vis the value system of the by-gone days.
The discourses became all the more Interesting at the presence of the youngsters. They were heads over heels to defend themselves; Both the parties (oldies and young) were often venomously vocal and trying to impress upon one another.
In the long last, the debate began to revolve around the behavioural patterns. The older ones were pointing their accusative fingers to the younger ones for their careless, indis-ciplincd, arrogant and belligerent way of antics. To counter it. the younger ones were striving to convince the old ones to learn to accept the changes. 1 would frankly confess that I was on the side of the older generation. You may. therefore find some of my remarks biased but hopefully not untrue. Today, when I write this, 1 should appreciate that everybody took the arguments and counter-arguments In good spirit and heart.
It Is frequently observed that the young boys and girls ignore their parents, gqardians, teachers and ciders as out-dated, unproductive and uncrcativc. Even yesterday, It was simply the problem of the western world alone. But today it has pervaded our society too. Some recollected, In old days the children were obedient, loyal and respectful to parents, teachers, and the elderly people. These days, a wcll-bc-havQd, gentle and loyal boy or girl Is considered a fool by his/her peers even.
In course of discussions, some persons of good offices narrated some events to sub-■siantiatc their points which I Intend lo share with others.
One gentleman told this real-life story. One day, as he was leaving his office, one young man dropped In and proudly declared that he had been to Delhi on excursion, thus he could not get the admit card for the ensuing recruitment examination of that office. He asked the officer to issue an admit card Immediately for him. The officer (I would say anybody would) disliked the commanding tone. That was the day before the
examination date and office hours were already over an hour ago. So, he was bluntly told that II was next lo Impossible to Issue an admit'eard for him because the office was already closed. The young man retorted that it was one way of answering him. This was loo much for the official. He told him clearly that II was one way of answering no doubt, and it was the formal and final answer for him.
Following the above, am other gentleman was inspired to tell us another such incident. A young person one day showed up in his office and very perkily asked If the office would recruit any technocrat. The gentlemen wanted lo know which sort of technocrat the young man was. The entrant had completed his master's degree with first dfvi-sions/classcs all through with major In a particular subject from a university. The official very rudely told him that he had very brillfant academic credits but their requirements did nol match with his achievements. Thus, he was turned down.
In the presence of a lady, one day in the personnel department of one office, a young man rushed In. He was in a colourful T-shfrt, Jean's pant, high quality keels and holding a pair of goggles in hand. He asked. "Who is Mr X ?" The gentleman thus addressed responded to his query with a scowling face. He didn't like the way the young man enquired- about him. The young man was one of the candidates for coming recruitment test of that office and he would like to know about the likely pattern of questions. As his behaviour had already embarrassed the gentleman, he outrightly told him that the questions would be simply within the subject* so far studied by him. That was all told to him.
Now let's turn lo the other side of the coin. The complaints of the young ones cannot be Ignored. It is observed that some elderly Executives are perpetually late whereas If once by any chance they find any of their sub-ordinates tardy, they either issue warning letter or transfer him/her to a remote area thus punishing for violating punctuality.
Again, some seniors often while leaving office at the closing hours, give urgent tasks to the Juniors to be completed that evening forgetting that their Juniors too have a fam-ily/social life. The work could
be handed over to the Junior earlier or the seniors could at least spend sometime in the office as a solace to the junior.
Over and above. Juniors need appreciation. A little sympathetic gesture is often enough. Many a time it Is observed that some seniors neither they greet nor they bother to respond to greetings from the juniors. Wc must remember that Juniors as well seniors equally deserve respect. It is a two-way traffic. Real respect comes from the heart in the form of peace which is enjoyed by the both, the giver and the receiver. And peace helps achieve good results.
The seniors like the ruler of a state, head of an institution /organisation, teachers, superiors and so on, should practise what they preach. We should remember that the old saying "honesty is the best policy" holds perfectly good today too. The principles of equality, justice, (airplay etc. Should be applicable lo all. Only the practice of them can bring happiness for us.,
In the light of the above incidences. everybody came to a consensus that lack of cordiality and courtesy can bring nothing but negative results. The courtesy and cordiality go hand in hand with cooperation. A little politeness and gentle tone can play magic for one. Our youths need to be trained to behave and thus reap a rich harvest. One's nice words can do wonders. It Is practically proven (many books have been written on this). They should know it better than others that love begets love. In the above cases, the lack of courtesy and display of arrogance simply deprived them of cooperation which they needed badly.
The time Is come to realise that specialisation tn certain subject is not enough. Our curriculum should be thus shaped that our young specialists learn and practise human qualities too. Lack of human qualities will bring disaster for the society.
Let's not complain and counter-complain but compromise to reach a point where we can share courtesy, cordiality and resultant cooperation — to narrow down the present gap for the healthy growth, development, peace and prosperity of all.
Jerome Sarkar Slngtola. Dhaka