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Teenage Tensions

by Tahmima Anam
Some people have it worse than others : I suppose it Just depends on your personality. But whether Us Ingrained in you, or you're a victim of extenuating circumstances, moodiness is displayed by all of us fickle human beings at some point in our lives.
Psychologists say our age Is prime time for moods — and for once 1 think they're right. I'm not Justifying it. but I do believe that our 'in-bclwcc-ness' harbors a lot of varied and sometimes stormy behaviour. Some say ft is because of our chemicals changing and our hormones going haywire, but I'll have to disagree there. Granted our actions arc known to be somewhat affected by our biological processes, however, I think there are more important reasons behind the alien behaviour adults term adolescence.'
They call us the me generation' and, to a certain extent, I think it’s true. Try to remember the last time your parents denied you something material. Our parents' never-ending monetary funds have bred a bunch of pretty stubborn beings. I am. of course, generalising. There are those of us who very seldom get ruffled, and hardly ever get angry. For those of you out there, congratulations.
Now. for the rest of us, things aren't so easy. Academic pressure, social pressure, and our melee of other problems makes us ready to explode at the slightest suggestion.
Of all our responsibilities, our academic ones probably pose the greatest amount of problems. Once again, the exceptions (geniuses and teenage prodigies) are congratulated and very graciously excused. Life isn't as easy for those of us without photographic memories. In our fast-paced, competitive societies, it is a huge effort Just to keep your head above water, and coming from the backgrounds that we do, we are expected to do much better than not drown. Your parents would put their every resource to work to help you
get your fair share of A s — they would move heaven and earth to put you at the top of your class. This, of course, puts you under tremendous pressure. You arc expected to perform at a very high level as a result of all their efforts .
Social pressure is another tough thing to deal with at our age. Not everybody can feel secure about their relationships all the time. Disagreements with friends can very easily make you unduly sensitive and put you in that don't-touch-mc-or-lTl-scream mood that parents are so afraid of. Then there's that guy or girl who will distract you from everything else, but I won't go into that. We all know how fatal these things can be. I'd say avoid them if you want to stay sane and healthy for a few
more years.
No matter how hard you try to hide your mood, it will pop out of your veneer sooner or later. The thing Is to try to not let it give you any permanent damage. An outburst with a friend Is okay once in a while : your peers are likely to understand since they're probably having similar problems. But three times a day may wear out your friends' patience. Try to channel your extra energy Into something constructive when you're frustrated, don't break a glass,s try to cool off before you do anything. A cold shower is a good antidote for your inner fuming.
Your mood swings will affect and surprise your parents more than anyone else. Starting from the sweet age of twelve, you are likely to, be-
come a bit of a mystery to them. They may try to figure out what's wrong, which can be very frustrating, or they may try to understand, which is different. When you get annoyed vzith them, try to take a minute to figure out what their motives are. Chances are they probably don't mean to nag, and arc just trying to figure out what you're up to. Something you take for granted may very well be an enigma to them.
So even if reading this has still left you in a deplorable state, you may take comfort In knowing that there arc probably hundreds who share your misery, and millions who are much worse off. I'd say count your blessings, take a cold shower, and things may look a little brighter.